Dr. Benzion Sorotzkin, Psy. D.

Shidduchim

Finding The Bashert: Why Is It So Difficult To Hear The Bas Kol?

The Gemara (Moed Katan 18b) quotes Rav Yehuda in the name of Shmuel that “Every day a bas kol proclaims that the daughter of so and so [is the match] for so and so.”1 One would therefore imagine that singles need only to sit back and wait for a bas kol to guide them...

Shidduch Narratives: “Disclosing,” or Sharing a Life in Context

A dilemma faced in many shidduchim is how much and when to reveal less than positive aspects about oneself. On one hand, there is a realistic concern that revealing too much too early will doom the relationship before it gets off the ground. On the other hand, not...