Dr. Benzion Sorotzkin, Psy. D.

Chinuch

A Tale of Two Mothers: Reading the Signals Wrong

I recently received a wonderful book as a gift. “A Canopy of Stars” by C.B. Weinfeld (2019) is a collection of inspirational stories masterfully written and indeed very inspirational. I am eagerly looking forward to reading the other books in the series. There was,...

Admonishing Without Destroying

A young couple become parents. They begin to imagine all the positive and uplifting interactions they will have with their children. Admonishing and criticizing children is most likely not part of this blissful scene. Unfortunately, the reality of life and the chinuch...

Is Self-esteem Synonymous with Gaavah?

In a March 2011 issue of Hamodia Magazine, a writer who described himself as a “Yeshiva high school teacher and life coach” wrote an article titled “The Self-Esteem Mirage.” In this article, the author states: “The self-esteem movement is exactly the opposite of...

Caution: “Extreme Giving” Is Hazardous To Relationships

A central goal in developing middos is to value peace, to avoid hurting others, and to avoid conflict by being mevater (conceding) to the other person. Likewise, the key role that being a “giver” (a נותן ) plays in good relationships is emphasized in all frum marriage...

Torah Perspectives on Boundaries, Restrictions and Sexuality

Boundaries and restrictions A significant portion of the Torah revolves around boundaries and restrictions. Many youngsters’ mental image of G-d and His rules can be described thus: A very powerful god, who for some mysterious reason, needs us to provide him with...